By Lindsay Tigar Aug. Everything was so good!
It was so great! She carefully put up with me—in her tender, patient way—until she reached her boiling point or maybe needed to -off so she could do actual work?
To date? At the time, I was utterly confused did she like him too? Would you want her to date him?
Absolutely not. And with that question… my anxiety waned. I stopped obsessing about the time between text messages.
I let him lead the conversation. If the answer is no—I stop wasting my time. Sure, it might seem like a stretch to ask that after one date —how do I even know that person?
This question makes me take a second to breathe, look at the logic behind my worries instead of the Hot married Bordeaux, and truly look at who this guy is as a person. Not as the guy I want to hook up with, not as a partner, not as the dude I want to take home to meet my parents—but as a living, breathing, real, man, aside from anything connected to dating.
All of my stress was because I felt like I had no control and no way to make a decision about whether something moved forward or not. But you know what?
Now, I let the guy impress me. I let him take the reigns.
I let him send the sweet texts. I let him make a move.
Images: Lindsay Tigar.